People reach out at all kinds of moments. Sometimes something specific has happened, a rupture, a betrayal, a change that shifted everything. Sometimes it's more of a slow drift: tension that's become normal, silence that's grown comfortable, or the same argument happening again and again without ever really resolving.

It might be feeling unseen or unheard. One person shutting down, the other reaching out harder. Resentment that hasn't healed. A disconnection you can both feel but neither of you can quite name.

It doesn't matter if things are raw, chaotic, or quietly stuck. We work with whatever's here.

My approach is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy, an evidence-based way of understanding relationships through the lens of attachment, emotion, and the patterns couples fall into when they're hurting.

In practice that means we slow the cycle down enough to actually see it. We look at what's underneath your reactions, not just the reactions themselves; the emotions and needs that get missed, masked, or misread in the heat of it.

Nobody gets blamed. The pattern is the problem, not either of you.

You both get space to be heard and understood. And we work toward something that feels safer and more honest. Not perfect, just real.

It can help you understand your cycle instead of getting lost in it. Communicate in a way that actually lands. Repair wounds and rebuild trust. Explore difficult things without shutting down or escalating.

It can help you reconnect, emotionally, physically, as a team. Make decisions about your future from a place of clarity rather than fear. Understand what each of you actually needs, not just what you've been asking for.

Whether you're rebuilding, reconnecting, or trying to find a way forward, you don't have to figure it out alone.

I hold the space with warmth, honesty, and clear structure. You'll both get time, presence, and understanding.

A session might involve gently unpacking an argument or a moment that felt painful. Identifying the pattern you fall into as a couple. Helping each person say what's underneath their reaction, not just the surface version. Slowing things down so you can actually hear each other, maybe for the first time in a while.

There's no performing, no winning or losing, no sides. We stay with what's real.

Yes, couples sessions work best when you're both there.

If one of you is unsure, that's completely normal. We can talk it through on an introductory call, and there's no pressure to have it all figured out before we start.